I am sick and tired of hearing tragic love stories from women. It really breaks my heart to hear how girls get played out relentlessly, many times to the point where I internalize the pain and take it out on my own boyfriend even when he hasn’t done anything wrong! I know you ladies can feel me on this one…
One of the worst things to feel is played out by your man. After one of these horrible experiences women feel back stabbed, betrayed, bitter and brokenhearted! But I’ve noticed a common factor in all the crazy stories and its that women say this same thing, “I let it happen.”
What do you mean you let it happen?
Yes, that means that there is a way to be aware if your boy is playing you out and the opportunity to act upon it!
Ladies, there are red flags that you shouldn’t be oblivious to. Don’t let the crazy story happen to you!
First and foremost, know your IDENTITY! Ladies, know who you are and value yourself! Know that you are beautiful, you are a queen and you deserve the best! So don’t settle for BS, some things are unacceptable.
Number two, there is so much love in this world! If you aren’t being loved in the way that you want to be loved, then Leave! This world is filled with people who want to love you, don’t think it can only come from one person. So don’t feel limited or manipulated to stay in a relationship. Men love to make woman feel like no one else can love them. That’s the bull!
Now lets get down to business. Its hard to keep your eye open for red flags while trusting your partner at the same time, but you need to keep a healthy balance of both! If you witness suspicious behaviors that give you a funny feeling, verbalize it even if you don’t have substantial information to back it up. Don’t be afraid to question things! And if he doesn’t want to answer or if the answer is ridiculous, then that is a red flag you need to keep record of.
Ladies, pardon my vocabulary, but this topic really infuriates me, don’t let shit slide! I heard a girl tell me, “But the ‘I’m sorry’s’ are so good!” Ladies, you have standards for a reason, so keep them! Again, stop settling and giving in to the nonsense, that is exactly how you “let it happen.”
A very close male friend of mine once told me, “things don’t just happen out of the blue, you always get signs.” So when I hear women tell me, “I let it happen” it’s confirmation! Don’t ignore the signs. People show you who they are from the beginning, we just chose to ignore it.
Lastly, there is always room for hope. Cheaters are only cheating themselves (my next post-stay tuned). Don’t let a bad experience ruin your chances to meet your prince. I encourage you to rise above the negativity and stay resilient! Love is never ending and its never too late to love!
Be blessed, spread love,