She’s 5’6 and walks like she has gold mines in her hips. Her appearance is stunning and her conversations are fire. She holds an MBA and is the most valuable player in a very successful company. You may think she’s in a relationship with an awesome guy, just like herself. But you find out that she’s more single than a dollar bill. Now your most resounding question is, why is a good woman like her single?!! I am about to answer…
A good woman, many men can agree, is an independent woman who has a lot going for herself: has a good job, can maintain herself, is smart, caring, not too needy, has a “good support system“, gives her man his time and space, and not too overbearing. I know A LOT of women who have these attributes, but they are still single. Meanwhile, women who don’t poses half the qualities are happily taken-Why?
Many great women who are intelligent, professionals and physically fit are fully indulged in their career, health, body, and their own lives. Its very hard to juggle a full time job, school, gym, fun AND try to squeeze dating a man. Those women who can do all this AND maintain a successful relationship are exceptional! Dating can be time consuming, draining and stressful. Many powerhouse women already carry the weight of the world on their shoulders, dating a man may only bring on an additional unnecessary load.
For a woman with a regular job, or no job at all, no friends, no ambition, or support system, maybe giving her all to a man can come easy. Having a man may even be necessary to her advancement in life. Kudos to this type of good women who usually stand out for the ability to cook, clean and be submissive. But for other types of good women, nurturing a relationship can be a hindrance to her own goals and dreams. It doesn’t mean that this type of driven woman is lonely or loveless. This type of women receives love, companionship and satisfaction from family, friends, leisure activities and her career. There is no better feeling than being happy to go to work everyday, getting paid to do what you love, and make your dreams come true!
Jay-Z once said about Beyonce “I don’t think it’s meant to be…cuz she loves her work more than she does me.”
Marriage and dating is not for every woman. Life is still as good, as valuable and meaningful without a husband. Don’t believe me? Look at Oprah, Mother Theresa, or look at yourself! Marriage is a social construct. I encourage you to be what you want to be and not what your society or culture says you should be. To answer the first question: Why are good women single-because they choose to be!
Be blessed, spread love