I’m sure most of us have seen the movie or read things related to this topic, but I’m here to summarize it even more from my perspective. I want to give you ladies out there a better understanding when he’s just not really digging you like you may think he is, sort of like a guide you should go by. I came up with a list of five signs that will help you detect or recognize signs that he’s just not into you so you won’t be wasting your valuable time.
This is should the easiest one to recognize, does he even call you? Or his only form of communication is through text messaging right? And lets hope he is not hitting you with the “I don’t have minutes”, cause trust me if he was into you, his minutes wouldn’t be a problem. How can you guys ever get to know each other or have a good conversation without speaking on the phone? Call him and see if he answers, and if he does let’s see how long the conversation will last.
Try to figure out his motive, is he already letting you know he doesn’t want to be in a relationship? Find out his reasons why, if he say things like “I want to focus on myself” or “I don’t want to ruin a good friendship” (mind you, you guys don’t have a good friendship yet) then he’s not really digging you. If he was digging you, he would move rapidly, he would begin to set rules and have future plans for you guys. But if there is no future plans then there in probably no future relationship, Sorry.
Is he really trying to go out with you? I mean think about it, how many times has he tried to set up a date with you? I’m not talking about him inviting himself to your house or inviting you to his, I mean out to like a casual dinner/movie or whatever the case, and is he being creative with the planning? Creativity is important ladies, remember that. If not, then he really doesn’t want to spend quality time (QT) with you because that will force him to really try to get to know you and he doesn’t want to get to know you…
Have you met any of his closest friends? And if you have, did you kind of run into them or did he purposely wanted you to meet them? If you haven’t met his closest friends yet and he is not trying to introduce you or bring you around his friends, it simply means you won’t be around that long. If he was really into you he would definitely bring you around his friends, it’s kind of like welcoming you to his circle/group/posse/gang, you get the point and he does that because he is really digging you.
Is he still messing with other girls? well you probably wouldn’t know this, but ask him how would he feel if you decided to talk to other guys, pay attention to his response, his response should basically tell you if he is into you or not. If he was really digging you, it would definitely bother him if you decided to speak to other guys, because at this point he should look at you like you’re his property/prize possession/his belonging, or whatever.
To conclude, Ladies…come on, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out if he is indeed digging you or not. Just be more observant of his behaviors and you should know in a matter of weeks. To all the fellas out there, I’m just helping you out so you can avoid all the future headaches…