So traditionally, we’ve been socialized to believe that somewhere between the 1st and the 15th every month, instability becomes a normalcy in most women’s lives. The naked “David” magnet on their refrigerator makes them giggle, the Flintstones’ episode that reminds them of an ex makes them cry, chocolate makes them insanely greedy and any comments about it being “that time of the month” or being an “angry [insert ethnicity here] woman” usually incites a barrage of curse words and something being thrown. But lately, it’s been men who throw a tirade of hissy fits.
Example: I’m putting on my stockings to go to class at 7 am and my man “friend” calls, “Lately, I’ve been feeling unappreciated. I know you’ve done a lot for me in the past but what have you done lately? This school thing is making me believe you can’t concentrate on what you have. You don’t even call like you used to.” When I responded amused I was met by stream of curses. I stare at the receiver for a minute and start wondering when exactly did I become a lesbian.
Biologically speaking, the male gender is predisposed to competition; and according to Darwin their nature, make-up and behavior is to incite female-choice. When a female is fascinated by something/anything other than her mates’ or possible mates’ advances, mayhem ensues.
Let’s talk the animal kingdom for a minute. I’ve been fascinated by lions and monkeys recently. The lioness’ domestic role is not just the obvious: producing offspring. She is also the hunter, the provider for her mate and offspring. Most career-driven women and I would identify with lionesses. We have purposed to build a nest-egg for our future offspring and financial stability. Our focus on self-betterment sometimes leaves an emotional void in our mate(s).
Now, let’s talk monkeys. Monkeys have been known to throw poop when they are angry, excited, or seeking attention. Do you see the connection between the monkey and my “friend” yet?
In a man’s defense they are emotionally repressed by society. Any display of emotion from a man is identified as weak. However, insecurity is sometimes masked as a healthy display of emotion. Belittling your mate because you feel inadequate makes you no better than a monkey, honey.
Danielle is one of the most passionate people I know. She’s, a 26 year-old returning college student, is pursing triple majors in English, Biology and Psychology. A veteran writer, slam poet and aspiring doctor, she’s looking forward to the mass publication of her short-story collaboration “Unbroken” and currently is working on an independent documentary. When I asked her to describe herself in as little words as possible, she came back with only one… “fire” and I couldn’t agree more.