I’ ve heard some women say that they won’t date men who come from a single parent household. Now, some may disagree just like I do, for the simple fact that no one can really determine if having two parents versus having one can have a major impact in romantic relationships. And let’s be honest, not all of us come from a two parent household and we make some of the bests boyfriends and girlfriends. With that being said, I do believe in having a good support system and that entitles more than just having two parents.
A lot of times when you date someone you become more than just their boyfriend or girlfriend. You become the counselor, best friend, provider, and sometimes even somewhat of a caretaker or parent. This is why I believe when dating someone make sure that person has a good support system. It will save you from playing more roles then the ones you signed up for. I understand that being a good boyfriend requires a lot of different responsibilities, but how much responsibilities can one person effectively take in a relationship?
Now this support system I’m referring to can include individuals such as parent(s), friend(s), family and maybe even a counselor of some sort. Without a support system, a person is more likely to display the characteristic of “clingy” or have the constant urge to want to be around you 24/7. Don’t you want to be able to go out with your friends without having your partner with you all the time? Or better yet, talk about other things besides her conflicts with the world? How about this, wondering why most of her knowledge comes from reality TV? If you are looking to avoid those conflicts in your relationship or more importantly your future relationships, here are some things to look for when finding that perfect or close to perfect person.
Extended Family. Family is important; family provides the ultimate support to someone. Having a close knit family can provide so many benefits to an individual. Benefits include having people who will always being there in desperate times to just having people you know appreciate you for you and who genuinely love you.
Friends. Having close friends is also vital. Having close friends prepares you for what relationships are all about. They understands your crazy personality and accepts your flaws. They will protect you from making the same mistakes over and over again.
Parents. I believe it really doesn’t matter whether you grow up with two or one parent, as long as you had one. Parents are there to help you understand the meaning of being in a committed relationship. They can explain to you the expectations of being in a romantic relationship and get an understanding of the gender roles that may be useful to your relationship.
To conclude, a significant other can play the roles of all and hopefully does it voluntarily. But let’s not always expect that person to happily fill the shoes of your entire support system and blame them if they don’t. Remember your support system before your partner came in the picture. If you don’t have one, maybe you need to build on the ones that are right in front of your eyes. Keep in mind in most cases there is no replacing parents, family, and friends.