A woman that is insecure is a woman that is not confident, uncertain and anxious. I believe that insecurity stems from lack of trust. The bible says “Don’t be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds.” If you trust God, you won’t be anxious, instead you’d pray and trust in God that everything will turn out ok. And when you trust God you will feel confident and secure that things are fine. This same concept can be applied to insecurity in relationships.
Insecurity begets anxiety, trust begets peace, and the antidote to insecurity is trust. Like I stated, insecurity in relationships stems from lack of trust. If you are feeling insecure, I’m here to tell you that it’s ok to feel insecure because you probably have a valid reason to feel the way you do. And it probably has nothing to do with flaws in your character. Allow me to explain with a short story:
Mike tells his girlfriend Jessica, that Pheobe is just a friend. Months later, Jessica discovers that Mike has been romantically engaged with Pheobe. Mike tells Jessica that Lisa is just a friend. Months later, Jessica finds out that Lisa and Mike have been mutually engaged in sexual conversations. Lastly, Mike tells Jessica that he barely knows Laura. Months later, Jessica discovers the Laura has been doing personal favors for Mike and having private telephone conversations. When Mike introduces Vicky to Jessica as just a friend Jessica has her doubts. When Jessica questions Mike about his friend Vicky, Mike calls Jessica insecure. Jessica no longer trust Mike because of the past deception. Jessica feels insecure. It is not a flaw on Jessica’s character, but it reflects the health of her relationship with Mike. The person at fault is not the person feeling insecure, but the person provoking those feelings.
Feelings, like insecurity, are normal. Listen to yourself and trust yourself with your feelings. Feeling insecure may be a warning sign that the relationship you are in is not a healthy one. Many times men manipulate women into thinking that feeling insecure is a weakness or a flaw in their character. The truth is that it’s ok to feel insecure. Empower yourself by trusting your body and feelings. Feeling insecure may be a reflection of a flaw or weakness in the way you are being treated in your relationship, so don’t put yourself down for it. Instead, be proactive about it.
Work on regaining trust. Pray. And let peace overcome your doubts. Having trust in your relationship is the only cure for insecurity. Make sure the person you are in a relationship with is a person you can trust and believe in so that you can have a healthy and peaceful relationship.
Be blessed, spread love,