When it comes to first impressions, there’s nothing quite like making a good one. Psychologists have long known about the powerful influence of priming on human behavior and decision making; which suggests that what we perceive first can highly influence how we perceive subsequent information. Our brains are wired to pick up from the most easy and accessible cues that requires minimal expenditure in terms of the vital brain resources, therefore we latch onto the information presented first!
This has huge implications for dating, relationships and of course the first date! The Psychologists at HaveYourPick.com have hand selected a number of first date locations stemming from the cutting edge findings of science and Psychology, to fuse these exciting insights into practical and useful understandings on where to take her on a first date!
While you aren’t necessarily cracking the jokes at a comedy club, Psychology says it doesn’t matter. Our brains like to create cause effect relationships, however often gets confused and misattributes what it finds in one context and places it onto something else. Put simply, since you are the object of focus throughout the date, and you are present in a humorous environment, the humorous nature of the context becomes shifted onto you – highlighting you as the causal mechanism of her laughter. So well done Mr Funny guy!
Idea (2) The Zoo
If you and your date are animal lovers, the zoo can be a perfect destination! Getting up close and personal to potentially dangerous animals sparks an ancient unconscious reaction which speeds up our heart rate, gives us sweaty palms and prepares us for fight or flight. While you’re thinking how can this be a attraction inducing environment, lets explore the psychology behind it.
While our body gears up for a stressful occasion, we instinctively know that we will not come into danger in the safe haven of a zoo experience. Thus what happens, is that our brains decode the information as excitement rather than life threatening. And through the magic of unconscious misattribution that we discussed earlier, you have created an exciting and rememberable first date experience that will cause her to take to her friends about you and the date, further working in your favor!
Idea (3) Surprise Surprise!
When situations become predictable, the level of enjoyment and pleasure that we draw from it gradually decreases.
Our brains accustom to the predictable nature!
But when you anticipate a pleasurable event or occasion and when things are a little uncertain, the brain releases a pleasure chemical known as dopamine into the brains reward centers! Ironically, the brain releases more dopamine during anticipation than when actually receiving the pleasurable thing itself! Therefore keeping the first date location a secret until you get there can work wonders in causing the brain to release it’s natural pleasure inducing chemicals!
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Jamie received a BS in Psychology from the University of East Anglia (England) in 2011. Since then his passion has been to investigate how the unconscious mind shapes our decision making and behavior beyond our conscious awareness. In particular, He is interested in how men can utilize the latest psychological findings to improve their dating and relationships and success with women. From how to text to women to how to attract women in nightclubs, psychology has a lot to offer! We at Seriously Maybe appreciate the post and wish you continued success!