What’s the number one thing to do, when you first meet a girl you absolutely LOVE – and would consider getting in to a relationship with?
It’s to go out, and meet other girls.
Why am I saying this? Because, what I’ve noticed over the course of teaching guys how to attract women – is that a lot of guys settle for the first girl they really like, or even worse – the first girl that likes THEM.
They are settling from a place of scarcity, because they have no other options.
Now, let’s say you a meet a girl in a club tonight – you’re completely in the zone; having fun, staying congruent, and are detached from any outcome with this girl.
Because you’re in abundance, and are detached from the outcome – ultimately, you become the prize and she becomes attracted to you.
She’s not attracted to your looks. She’s not attracted to your money. She’s attracted to the confident, sexy guy you are – in that moment.
Now, why is she attracted to you?
Because you’ve elevated all of these positive emotions within her body – through being confident, through being sexual, through being detached from any outcome and centered in your own reality – and all of this derived from being in abundance.
BUT, when you start to like her, and place too much value on her – you enter scarcity. You become needy. And she slowly become less and less attracted to you.
Because she was attracted to that fun-loving, sociable guy in the club, that had choice – NOT the needy guy that calls her 24/7, to make sure she’s not cheating on him.
And this happens far too often. Too many times, a guy will rush in to a relationship with a girl he likes – and 5 years down the line, she despises him.
Now, the girl will do one of two things:
She’ll cheat on him and eventually break up with him.OR
She’ll stay miserable in that relationship.
Option 2 is very common, because women think they’ll have wasted 5 years of their lives – if they just break up with him after all that time.
So save yourself and the girl any future heartache, by FIRST – going out and meeting other girls, THEN getting in to a relationship.
Rather then rushing straight in to a relationship with the first girl you meet.
You see, when you settle from a place of abundance – you’re choosing her. You know that you can have any other girl you want, but there’s something special about this girl.
And that sets the foundation for your entire relationship, because you’ve truly settled from a place of abundance.
About the Guest Author: Zak
Zak Loveday is head Dating Coach over at the Ladies Man College , where he teaches guys how to approach and attract women. It’s pretty interesting, and I urge the men to take a close look at what they are doing over there at Ladies Man College if you need some assistance. He is also currently giving away a free book he wrote called the Ladies Man Blueprint, you can head over here to download it now:http://www.ladiesmancollege.com/seriously-maybe.html. We at SM are thankful for his contribution and wish Zak the best of luck in his future endeavors.