So once upon a time I had a conversation with my girl she said, “You know they call me Spatula.” I said, “Um why?” She said, “because I flip straight girls”. WOW!!! We’ve all seen it, especially in college. One charismatic female seems to be able to turn stable demographic of straight women inside out and my question becomes, why? What are you fellas doing wrong that women like Spatula use to their advantage?
Women are creatures that require attention. We talk…A LOT! But Spatula says in all of the conversation she pays attention to the detail, “Lets say one day a woman is talking and she randomly brings up she likes something small like hershey kisses almond. I will go find the biggest hershey kiss almond and give that to her like oh I was just in the store and I thought of you.”
She goes on to mention that after men have sex with someone or they feel like “they got you” or “you got them” (as one man told me) they stop doing the things they did in the beginning ie. Pulling out chairs, opening doors, calling etc. “When females see how I treat woman they look at their man like why don’t you do that for me. The females at my job always tell their men the stuff I do and try and get them to do it.”
Men overall do not pay attention to detail and to a woman detail is everything. I started to think back to when I fell the hardest for a man and remembered one specific instance where a guy didn’t know what to say to me when I was getting out of a not-so-good relationship and he played a song, Neyo’s “So You Can Cry”. The lyrics said, “I’ll ask the sun to shine away from you today so you can cry. If that’s what you need alright.” Men have this “you’re upset so what are we gonna do about it to fix it” mentality. Sometimes -scratch that -most of the time a woman doesn’t want YOU to fix it. They just want to vent.
Sexually, men need to remember to take their sweet time. The more time spent being attentive to a woman’s reaction, the look in her eyes, the things that she doesn’t say are your most powerful weapons.
One time I passed three women in the hospital and all three were like “I love your haircut” and I smiled. Women always notice these things but when I walked out of the hospital and a young doctor said, “You got a hair cut. You look amazing.” I stopped. He smiled and kept walking. When a man does something like that a woman’s mind starts racing, “When did he see me? How long has he noticed me? My God, what do I look like right now?” You got her attention and that’s all it takes.
What’s the straw that breaks the camels back and causes women to switch teams?
“Most men (I won’t say all) lose interest in their woman me I see that and show them the attention they need without showing I am pursuing them.”
Danielle is a regular on Seriously-Maybe. She’s back for a fourth time and I have a feeling…scratch that, it’s not going to be her last! She has a unique and savvy way of writing that makes it very enjoyable to read. She’s a college student pursing triple majors in English, Biology and Psychology. A veteran writer, slam poet and aspiring doctor, she’s looking forward to the mass publication of her short-story collaboration “Unbroken” and currently is working on an independent documentary. She also has her own blog for those who want to read more pieces by her, http://odontgetmestarted.com/ and check out all of her guest blogs on seriously-maybe.com.