We both work full time jobs and are in the process of obtaining a higher degree, him a masters, me a PhD. Although we work equally as hard outside the home, I’m still expected to fulfill the expectations of a “womanly” role inside the home. I’m pressured by my mother, his mother and of course society, friends and family. Women still hold the overwhelming burden of household tasks, even when they earn more, have children and higher education then their male counterparts. But why are we doing this?
Whenever women are asked about the most stressful task in their lives, household duties is always at the top of the list. Why do we burden ourselves so much with household responsibilities? We are educated, hard working women, how much does actively participating in housework really matter? When you compare it to taking care of yourself, being happy, and providing for the health and well being of your family, I bet cleaning the house is not that important. However, housework still remains a relevant issue to relationship life. It can cause loads of stress even to the point of effecting happiness in your relationship.
I was given the opportunity to cook for my partner for the first time and it was something I had trouble with. Maybe its because I refuse to enable a man; maybe its because I’m a feminist; or maybe its because I think too much into things. But after some thought and discussion with my partner about household duties, he told me, “Do what makes you happy.” That led me to conclude that cooking or doing any other housework for your significant other or your family is an act of love. Its about doing it because it makes you happy to do something nice for someone you love; acts of service are demonstrations of love.
Be blessed, spread love,