I’ve said this many times before and I’ll say it again. All things must come to a beginning and when something begins something else usually ends. Which brings me to the topic for today. I want to talk about what happens after a relationship is over.
I like to believe that the two people that were once one are now two new people and the spirit of their relationship goes off to heaven where it is rewarded for all the goodness it has brought to the world using those two people as conduits. Isn’t that nice? I could just see Bob Ross creating a happy little painting using the relationship spirit as inspiration. Let’s take a moment and appreciate how good that sounds….
Okay the moment is over let’s get back to reality. In my experience I’ve had very few successful post mortem relationships with women I have previously been involved with. It’s always a little weird. Regardless of how the relationship ends I never hold grudges. I may want to distance myself from that person (sometimes for my own safety), but rarely would I do something drastic like, remove them from my Facebook friend’s list.
Where does the weirdness come from? Is it the fact that you’ve seen their “OH” face many times or that they know all your embarrassing secrets, like at one point in your life you wanted to be a magician and walked around wearing magic gloves all day? Maybe it’s the way that it ended. What ever that weirdness is, I don’t think it ever goes away.
So what do you do when you’re trying to maintain a friendship with someone you were once involved with and there is awkwardness lurking? I honestly don’t know but what I would do is ignore it and hope it never comes up in a conversation. I am not too good to avoid awkward situations. What would you do?