Big Wedding or Big House…

Who isn’t a fan of the beautiful wedding? Especially when it’s a huge one with all your family and friends there to witness/share one of the most important days in your life. But did you know that a lot of big weddings can go from $20,000 and up?!?! The Wedding Report, an industry publication, reports that the average wedding costs $29,000 in the U.S. I also read about former football player, Curtis Martin, who recently got married and his wedding was a whopping one million dollars! Again one million dollars for those who didn’t understand the first time! He is rich, but do you know what I can do with one million dollars??? Seriously. Let’s just say a big wedding is not on my list. Considering the current state of the economy, this should be a topic to bring up for discussion.

The average low to middle class couple spending tens of thousands of dollars on one day should really take a closer look at their priorities. It’s not rare for couples to take large loans out just to pay for their wedding. The idea of massive debt for one day of fun, charging an amount equivalent to at least a down payment on a big house, kind of doesn’t make sense to me. Now who isn’t a fan of a big house that you can live in for as long as you want? Why not save that loan for a nice house instead of a huge wedding that you can’t even afford? If you can afford it then by all means go for it.

For those who really can’t, after that large loan you took out on that wedding and that day is over, you go back to that apartment or parents’ house and settle there (not cool). What’s wrong with having a nice intimate less costly (under 10gs) and saving that money for the future? Big wedding or big house? I’m for the bigger down payment on a nice house, dream car/cars, and all that good/expensive stuff.

If you ask me, I’d rather take a loan out on an expensive car that I can’t afford. At least I can enjoy it everyday that I have it. Trust me, that long-term happiness is a lot more worthwhile. And If I do become rich, then Big Wedding it is! I’m coming to the ceremony and reception in a helicopter. How ’bout that for a show? But until then, I’ll pass on the big wedding and go for a nice, less expensive, intimate wedding. I might not be able to invite everybody I want but I’m sure we’ll have pictures to share. So if my future wife is reading this, now you know what it is, and don’t worry it’s for the best. Just think four car garage with a car in each space…; ).

Marckens P.

10 Responses to Big Wedding or Big House…

  1. I agree with you! Maybe its because im not getting married anytime soon but I just cant imagine myself blowing sooo much money on one day. I think the day could still be special on a smaller budget. The cost of a wedding doesnt equal the amount of love between the couple and doesnt guarantee happiness in marriage.

  2. LOL. Jus like a nice car or big house is what ur into, ppl r into big wedding. Cuz its the memories ur paying for. Once that day is over, whoeva u owe can’t take that big dream away from u. A house, a car, can both be repo’d. Downpayment on a house, then u lose ya job!! Brand new car, then u lose ya job. And as ur packing the boxes 2 leave ya new house, she b flipping thru the pages of her wedding album, a day she’ll neva forget.

    -Jae

  3. You both make some valid points! Dreia, I truly understand where you’re coming from and at the same time Jaeluv you really gave me something to think about…

  4. i think im in the middle with this. i want a big wedding but at the same time i dont want to pay lots of money for one either. the big house is nice as well. But like Jaeluv said, memories last a lifetime. sometimes you cant put a price on that…

    good read though.

  5. I can side with both Dreia and Jae. I agree that a big wedding isn’t necessary; you can definitely make beautiful memories on a smaller budget. Yes, that “one special day” is supposed to be “magical”, but you don’t need to rent a horse and carriage to make that happen. On the other hand, I wouldn’t spend all of my money on something like a fancy car that could not only get repo’d, but could also be destroyed in a car accident.
    Personally, I would be the one to sacrifice the big wedding to put a down payment on a house, but I’d much rather prefer spending money on things like vacations. You can travel the world, familiarize yourself with new places and cultures, meet new people, and make amazing memories that last at least a week long! =)

  6. I dont think the focus should even BE ON THE reception, the focus should be on the ceremony. where money is involved almost always problems follow…why have so much on your plate when your just beggining a new chapter in your life.
    p.s i finally got a chance to read the article lol

  7. Well…..I need to comment! I am scheduled to get married in July with a big expensive wedding and let me just say this, “SAVE YOUR MONEY!” It’s not worth your time and frustration. We have the money to pay cash for the wedding but in reality I am ready to cancel it because the truth is nobody really likes to see anyone truly happy if they are miserable. For my fiance and myself the wedding should be about two people committing to each other in the presence of God. That is what is important! We started planning this wedding so everyone could be a part of our special day. We have learned that the reality is that this day is really only special for us and a FEW close relatives. Forget the rest! BUY THE HOUSE!!!NOT THE CAR BUT THE HOUSE!!!

  8. i appreciate all the comments. you all had a lot of good points.

  9. i just hope he has a big 8=====D

  10. I love your post. I agree with you 100%. It seems as if everyone is struggling more and more with finances in this economy. I wish I had the money for a big wedding but it just isn’t worth it to go into more debt.

    I will be bookmarking your site for future reference….

    Thank you, and have a great day!