I recently wrote an article titled Friends Without Benefits and I’m sure a lot of people understood where I was coming from and more importantly understood the possibility of having a platonic relationship with the opposite sex. But let’s take a second to discuss having the friendship with the benefits from the opposite sex. Now some of you might wonder what do I mean when I say benefits and others might totally understand where I’m coming from. But let me make this somewhat clear and specific, benefits in regards of having a sexual and intimate relationship with the opposite sex with no strings attached. And to make it even more clearer, I figured I go get a definition for you guys. After doing a quick search, I came across a descriptive definition on Wikipedia ( they used the terms casual relationship). The definition is as follows, “A casual relationship, colloquially known as a fling, is a physical and emotional relationship between two people who may have a sexual relationship or a near-sexual relationship without necessarily demanding or expecting the extra commitments of a more formal romantic relationship. Motives for casual relationships vary. There are significant gender and cultural differences in acceptance of and breadth of casual relationships, as well as in regrets about action/inaction in those relationships”.
So the million dollar question would be how does one end up in this situation in the first place? Is it because you guys are so sexually attractive to each other that being in a relationship would put that all in jeopardy? Or is it because this person is good enough to be sexual with but not good enough to be in a relationship? Well I personally think it is not only possible but also pretty easy to manage. Imagine this… Two people, whom are both very mature and very much attracted to each other, like each other. And even though they like each other, they don’t want to fully commit to a serious relationship, as in boyfriend/girlfriend. So they decide to have a friendly relationship, one in which they will satisfy each others’ needs without the stress of a relationship. In situations like this communication is very key, it can make or break the friendship. From time to time, if the benefits are continuing to be met, it should be an understanding and agreement from both partners. After a while strong feelings may start to spark and that can get somewhat be confusing and difficult for one to handle.
So after knowing the consequences and the risks, then I say why not. If you’re old enough to be able to tie your own shoes then I guess you’re mature enough to make these type of tough decisions. You and your “friend” should go over some guidelines so there is an understanding on what is ok and what is not ok… (i.e., is it ok to date other people? Are we committed to one another sexual? Is this going to be a long-term thing? etc). Make sure it is something that both of you agree on and it is something that you both desire. We are here in this world to make ourselves happy by doing the necessary things to achieve that. People are going to judge but so what, we live in a society where people judge everyday. Just make sure that the decision that you make is a good one and hopefully it does not haunt you in the future, and you never know that friendship could easily turn into a romantic relationship.