Do you want a proposal? And if you do, do you want it now – and from him? You know that when you set a goal – it must be definite, and time oriented. For the definite part – is this the right person, and is this the right time?
It must be the right time for each of you.
How do you determine that? Well, if you are always putting the other person – first –you are really harming the relationship. That is because by doing so – your true self is not really in the picture. You know full well, that you can’t put yourself `second` forever. Eventually your own desires and needs will come to the surface – and your prospective mate will be surprised; “Hey, I never saw `her` before. Who is she, really?”
So, by subverting your own needs – and therefore a large part of your personality – you will be seen as a stranger – and maybe not a particularly pleasant new person for him/her – when you finally `reveal’ your own needs and desires.
There is a real detriment – in many ways – by always putting him/her first. The potential problems are:
• You will eventually resent it
• He/she will be so surprised when you finally do put yourself first that it will be like meeting you for the first time – maybe not so good!
• You will begin to `lose’ yourself if you do not begin being yourself – and attending to your own needs.
You must remember that the prize may not be worth the price. If the only way you can maintain the relationship is by submitting constantly and subverting your own needs – is that what you really want?Let’s hope not. You are an extremely unique person (we all are) and by forgetting and abandoning that uniqueness, you are really betraying your own essence.
I don’t believe there is any relationship that is worth that.
So, is there really such a thing as a Love Calculator? This is so interesting, because in light of the above scenario – wouldn’t it be great to be more objective, and look at the situation with a little more detachment?
How do you do that?
Perhaps it is time to look at Relationship Compatibility through a new set of eyes, or view point. You know that something called Astrology Compatibility is often (way more often than people think) is used to measure the potential of a relationship. It is certainly not fool proof, but then, what is? It may just give you a little more insight into your prize –and see if that person really is a trophy. And above all, with or without such a tool, the main ingredient of a successful Relationship Compatibility – is for both individuals to recognize that they are indeed individuals. When one forgets that – either for himself or for the partner –Trouble is Guaranteed.
Have the strength to be yourself! The relationship will take care of itself, if it should!
Ron Millicent is an avid student of relationships – and development of the human potential. He works as a volunteer for veterans who have suffered from war, with women who have lost hope. His mission is to create an atmosphere of courage and hope for their future. He brings to these folks a renewed determination to reach their potential – convinced that each of us has so much more than exhibited thus far. And he does all this with humor and passion for the individual. We are very happy with Ron contribution to SM and we wish him the best of luck in all his future endeavors. For more of Ron’s work, check out some of his work here “www.yourrelationshipcompatibility.com”.